fatbodypolitics:

Bdoingbdoingbdoingbdoing: william-m asked: See the problem is that none of what you have mentioned in your post shows that society thinks that it…

sprackraptor:

bdoing:

bigfatfeminist:

Society does think it’s more acceptable for men to be fat. It is not “acceptable,” per se, because fatness in and of itself is considered unacceptable, but fat men are not considered utterly worthless as a result of being fat. Fat women…

[[Trigger Warning: Talk about sexual assault]]

It’s very telling when the majority of the people in a certain movement are also the ones that the OP is trying to say don’t experience differing levels of discrimination / oppression from men. Women comprise the majority of this movement not because men do not face fat discrimination but the level at which women do is distinctly different. Thus making for more women in a movement. That doesn’t mean the experience of men is not a valuable asset, but when privilege is completely being ignored because OP wants ‘facts’ and ‘studies’ to prove the existence of his own privilege it derails the conversation.

When someone is coming from a place of privilege they need to take that into consideration when making comments like the OP. Experiences are different, one is not better than the other but expecting for all Fat rights / liberation bloggers who are mainly women to talk about fat male experience is ridiculous. I speak as a fat female, who explains my experience as a fat female. To focus on fat men, not only is that not my place as I am not male, but also would silence my own experience that includes sexism.

Fat bodies are routinely dehumanized in the media, with the use of tactics such as photographs of “headless fatties” and reality television shows that feature weight loss. The difference between that and the experience of being a fat female is that objectification of female bodies is not solely something that happens to fat women. Female bodies are still considered to be public property to be condemned or praised, the expectations for us to live in a body that is considered to be socially acceptable is far greater than men. For women our identity is tied directly to our bodies regardless of our size.

Fat women make less money than their thinner counterparts, we are less likely to be hired or promoted, we are more likely to be revictimized when coming forward after being sexually assaulted because law enforcement will deny that someone would want to rape us, we are denied maternity care or forced into having c-sections, and we face being harassed on the street not only for our fatness but because we are women. These are all real life examples of how fat men are not affected by fat oppression.

That does not mean that fat male experience is not important but it is different and until privilege starts being acknowledge the only thing that is going to happen is a continual derailing of productive conversation.