You know we use “fetish” colloquially to mean “someone who’s really into things not accepted by the mainstream” right? It seems to me that’s why “kink” has turned into such a popular term in certain communities. It means we don’t have to really consider the idea of fetishes and what they mean in a sexual context. It means we can continue to dismiss them as deviant.

But the thing that really bugs me about this response is that (even while keeping in mind that fetishes are not automatically bad and wrong) not everyone who digs fat is a fetishist in the first place. When someone digs your fat ass, while that is certainly an act of objectification, it’s not necessarily a fetishistic act.

It’s that your fat ass is hot.

While I think it’s totally valid to be uncomfortable with objectification, it makes ME deeply uncomfortable to see discomfort with fetishes and discomfort with objectification conflated in this way. Because it’s damaging both to fetishists AND to people who just think your ass is attractive.